Objective #1 Reached

We have reach the primary objective of the construction/addition!  We are not completed yet… actually have quite a bit yet to do but…  my mother is now living in my house.

Carpet went in on Tuesday…

padding goes in first, of course…


Yes, this padding is different, is is slightly thicker and made of recycled materials.  Figured that since this is the first floor and no insulation under it, a “better” padding was worth it.


Carpet is down in my room.  I will have to get an upclose photo sometime, it has some flecks of brown and red and really looks great with the fireplace and the tile.



Upstairs in those 2 room is a “greige” color carpet to go with the greige paint.   In one room, with the white walls, the carpet looks beige.  In the other room with the greige walls, the carpet looks more grey.


And there you have it a “little old lady” room as the kids noted.  Yes, yes it is.  She likes it.  She approved of the location of the furniture.   I will not comment on how many people it took to move that armoire nor how many bruises or pulled muscles or (possibly) swear words were involved.  But it is here, and she is happy!DSCF7596

There is still some things I need to get transferred across town, but it will wait till after I get back from Savannah with the Scouts.


Her sitting room has a TV and will have some of her knick knacks in that corner.   The teenager already declared it the rainy day game place.  🙂


The cats have already claimed the loveseat!  This morning I saw a whole lot of hair on that brown coverlet.


Does my mother understand?  Not fully.   She told me she didn’t like the shower and was glad it wasn’t in her house.  There is no other good option, so we will carry on and do our best.


I still have opportunities for you to help if you want to (not that anyone has offered very often)… but that will mainly be sorting and clearly 50 years of memories from her home and deciding what can move here and what cannot.


I am still not back into my room, but that will have to wait at least 2 weeks… gotta get stuff packed for the GS trip.



Where were we…

… I don’t remember where I left off on house updates…


I’ll share what we have done the last few days.

Remember this mess??  Yeah… me too.   A dear, dear friend came and helped me package it all up and move it to a temporary storage unit so that we could get things done.


Which became this…


It now looks like this.


Disgusting, dog pee carpet is waiting for trash pick up.   It was really, really disgusting!  The floor has been treated with Thompson’s Water Seal to prevent any odor from coming through and potential pee happening on the new carpet.

The walls have a fresh coat of white paint.   All of the windows have freshly washed curtains as well.


Closet is empty and floor is treated.   I forgot to take a photo of the bathroom  – which is clean and empty and has a new toilet and shower stool and shower curtain.  I can’t take a photo right now, you will see why in a minute…. read on…


Remember Liz’s room looked like this…


But then this happened because stuff from the other room was being stacked in here?


Then it became this!!  This floor got a coat of Thompson’s Water Seal as well.


Then began the process of covering the dark blue… First a coat of grey primer.

Not bad…


Then the final coat of Greige – yep.. grey + beige = Greige!  I’ll try to get a better photo with natural light tomorrow.   Touch up on the trim and it is ready to go.


This photo makes it look more grey…  It really is a pretty nice color.  And the blue is nicely covered.  We had some good memories as we reminisced about when it was painted blue by Abi and her friends before we moved in.DSCF7591


Then… because there will be carpet in the bedrooms, but only a runner in the hallway, we painted the portion by the doors so we don’t get paint on the new carpet later when we finally get to the runner.


**This is the reason I can’t go in and get a photo of the bathroom.  **


Remember how this was the staging area for work?



Now everything has been cleared away from the raised floor and the walls have a fresh coat (or 2) of paint on them.DSCF7594


Tomorrow will be an exciting but exhausting day!  Carpet comes AND we move my mother here.    There is a part of me that is sad to move my mother out of her home, but ever so grateful that we have been able to make it happen so that we can take care of her easier.


4 DOTRS Landscaping

.. or maybe not!?


I had all 4 daughters over for dinner tonight.  We cooked Miner’s Chicken on the campfire because we could not camp this Memorial Day weekend.    Also, because this would be the last night that all 4 of them will be together for 6 months!!  On Monday, #3 reports to work at summer camp until August.  The next Monday, #2 starts hiking the Appalachian Trail – ALL OF IT – with her boyfriend.   They will be back shortly after Thanksgiving.


While waiting for the dinner to cook, they decided that the hedge row, that looked like you are entering Narnia, needed to be trimmed.   They started with the hedge trimmer and quickly moved on to brute force and a dull hatchet.  The tree saw could not be located (imagine that?!).


Please enjoy these photos.  There are captions, I think you have to mouse over them to read them?

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We have made progress on the house too.  I’ll post that tomorrow!  🙂

What did you do with your Saturday?

What did you do with your Saturday?


We made progress on some of the mess… sort of…


Actually some of this progress happened earlier in the week, but… you get the idea.


The tile got fixed around the toilet pipe.   Looks pretty good!!  🙂


And some backer is on the walls in the shower to receive the tile!DSCF7522

Remember the master before (empty of stuff)?


Now it is ready to paint most of it and think about new carpet.


Yesterday, the bedroom was a mess of stuff that had to be boxed and/or sorted.

Today, most of it has been boxed up (to be sorted later), put away, or thrown away (2 trash bags).  We also got a 4 foot section of the carpet pulled up and removed to the trash!

Unfortunately, Liz’s room took the hit… the boxes are now stacked in there to be dealt with later.

The extra wide hall (4 foot)… which was deliberate because we planned to line the hall with bookcases… now has bookcases in it!  Sadly… we have already almost filled 3 and have more books to go… We (and by “we” I mean mostly Lydia) have an obsession/fascination with Harry Potter.  Significant shelves are dedicated to that paraphernalia.  Don’t worry, we have more bookcases to go under the windows and down the rest of the hallway!

The bedroom closets have some shelving in them.  More to be added later.  Strangely, Esther has more clothes than Lydia and Liz combined (Liz’s clothes aren’t here yet, but Lydia left her part of the closet).


Goals for the remaining weekend and all next week.

  1.  Get the walls washed in Esther’s old room and painted white
  2.  Get the carpet pulled and the floor water sealed
  3.  Get my room & closet painted
  4.  Call the tile guy to fix the broken tiles in my room
  5.  Fiddle around with the 1/4 round and get it fixed to the trim in my room… I think Gorilla glue might be the answer
  6.  If time allows, paint the door/wall in the bathroom
  7.  Finish all 3 closets

Mental Load

This week, I read someone else’s blog that really struck home with me.


The main take away I have from it is:


“The mental load means always having to remember.  The mental load is almost completely borne by women. It’s permanent and exhausting work. And it’s invisible……  What our partners are really saying, when they ask us to tell them what needs to be done, is that they refuse to take on their share of the mental load.”

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Here is the link to the full article.


Of course, this isn’t true in 100% of relationships/marriages.  However, I do agree that my mental load is so overwhelming that I probably can’t even remember it all to regurgitate it here, but I’ll give it a go.


(in no particular order of importance or urgency)

  • constantly thinking about and dealing with my mother’s meds & diabetes & diet
  • remembering my mother’s schedule and appointments
  • remembering my children’s schedule and appointments- all of them, even though they aren’t all living at home – mentally, I keep track of them all… for example:  Is this a late night for Abi or an early morning?  Will I have to stay late and put mom to bed?  What about the dog?, What does Liz need for her hiking trip?  I need to make the strawberry roll ups for her try. , When is Lydia going to be home?  Is she working?  Is she with friends?  What can she do to help with the addition?,  Does Esther have after school activities today?  What time do I need to pick her up?  Can she find a ride?  Why isn’t she practicing her horn?  Did she contact the French teacher about her grade?…. and on and on….
  • what food will I prepare for each meal
  • do we even have food in the house to prepare
  • what is my schedule?  who is picking up who and what time
  • what do I need to prepare for scouts next week – there is a whole lot of detail in that one:   shirts (find them), labels, bottles, games, vests, food list, final details for Savannah, who still needs to turn in a health from, who hasn’t blogged, what reservations need paid, who do I need to call and check on the reservation, is all the money deposited, I will need to contact the bank to tell them about the vacation, games for the road, supplies from here, packing …. and on and on…
  • household details like:  I really should wash the dirty clothes,  I need to paint my room, I need to wash and paint my mother’s room, mail that box that I promised a month ago, clear a path through the house….
  • which leads me to all the details of the construction:  paint – do I have enough?, what color am I doing in Liz’s old room?, we need to get the walls washed, we need to get them painted, we need to get the carpet pulled, the subfloor coated with water seal, the stairs need painted, the carpet runner put on them, the trim painted, the boxes moved, the floors mopped, the window screens replaced, the closets set up, which stone for the fireplace, … and on and on…
  • then there is the fun stuff that I have going on too… the yarn crafts:  next part of the Citrus Explosion Afghan, what am I doing for a border on the temperature afghan, I need to finish the ends on the dino afghan, who else wanted what?, who is getting which afghan?….  and more…
  • and what about the animals… is there food, does the dog need out, should I do something about Jupiter’s eye, where is Dinah, don’t forget to feed the outside cats…
  • not to mention the things I cannot find because of the construction:  where is my swimsuits, those GS t-shirts, the aloe, the labels…


There is so much more going on that I can’t even remember it all now… like writing this blog has been part of the mental load for a couple days…


A friend of mine told me a few days ago that her brain was “mush.”  I told her that brain mush was my specialty.  She told me:  “You function quite well!”   HAHAHAHAHAHA    I don’t really… or I do only because my brain, for some reason, keeps these things swirling and I am able to do them/take care of them at just the right time.    I really feel like I am not keeping on top of anything, but I guess I must be… or at least enough that everyone is still alive and fed and getting where they need to go…. however, don’t talk to me about when was the last time I washed my dirty clothes.



Room #2 in progress

Room #2 – Esther’s Room – is in progress.  Some things yet to be moved in, but you get the idea.




Unfortunately, we discovered that both screens for the windows in this room have HUGE rips/holes in them… they are BRAND NEW!  So, I guess I call on Monday to get those taken care of.


This is the room formerly known as Liz’s room… this mess all has to go somewhere… not sure where yet.



This is the room formerly known as Esther & Lydia’s room… I will spare you the smell-a-vision… *GAG*… not sure where all of that mess is going either.   DSCF7504


Now, if things could be stored in the garage… which they can’t because everything from my room has been in the garage SINCE JULY!!!!!  I suspect that some things will have been stored an entire year before they get back into the house and in a usable format.



One down…

… one room down… 4 to go.


Final Electrical inspection has been passed!!


Yep… one new room to set up tomorrow … 2 old rooms to clear, wash, paint, carpet, and prepare for my mother… and the master bedroom that still needs paint, and flooring, and lots of things, because it is the work staging area right now.

First:  This room has the trim on it now… after the flooring debacle on Wednesday, the floor is NOW done and the baseboard is on and it is ready to receive furniture.



The Liz/Lydia/Cat room now is ready for occupation.  Bunk bed is in place.  Eventually there will be a hole in the wall above that bunk that leads to the cat castle in the hallway, giving the cats a fun way to get to their favorite sleeping place, the top bunk.



The trundle bed is in place and has been given the cat nap approval by Venus.



Shortly after this photo, college dorm exploded in here and the floor and closet (that doesn’t have shelves or anything yet) is now filled with clothes and stuff from college.  Lydia also claimed 2 of the 3 dressers in this room.  🙂



Plants from 2 different college girls.   Liz will bring more later, I’m assuming.  She just sent the big ones now.  We placed them strategically so that the cats could still sit and look out the window.



If you look out the window, you can see that the soffit is not completed yet… and there are no gutters.  It will get there… don’t worry.